Primary Food: Relationships
On Day 2 we completed something called the Circle of Life. This activity shows us that physical food is secondary to Primary Food. Let me explain. Primary Foods are the things in our lives that drive us, make us who we are, and allow us to connect to others. The twelve areas of Primary Food are: Joy, Finances, Relationships, Creativity, Career, Social LIfe, Education, Health, Physical Activity, Home Cooking, Home Environment and Spirituality. These categories, when in sync, allow us to thrive.
Today we will talk about Relationships. Relationships are the cornerstone of life. It's how we love and relate to other human beings. We will have a variety of relationships in our lives: parents, grandparents, extended family, siblings, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, mentors, teachers, and more. It speaks to our need for connection and support. Relationships are the food for our soul: body, mind, and spirit.
Relationships are the most important form of our Primary Food. Our connections with others has massive impact on the quality of our life. We all need love, physical touch, intimacy, and sex, but we often confuse them. For example, when you are craving intimacy with your spouse, you might try to fill that need with sex. But that doesn't satisfy your intimacy need on a deeper level and will come to the surface in some way.
It is common for people to think one person can fullfill all their needs. But no one person can do that. When we learn to accet those around us for what they do bring to the table, we are able to identify their unique value in our lives. Intimacy needs vary based on the person and can be met by different people at different times in ourlives.
Our needs fluctuate depending on where we are in our own lives. And sometimes we carry pain from one relationship to another, placing unfair expectations on them and what we expect them to fill. Understanding these needs is critical so you can begin to assess if a particular relationship is good nor not. Relationships aren't 50/50 as many would say. They are 100/100. You are in control and don't need others to make you feel good, so you are able to offer 100% of who you are. Those in your life should have space to do the same.
Assignemnt: Answer in your journal.
What does "relationships" mean to you?
ARe relationships something you are currently investing your time in?
What are your needs in the areas of: love, freindship, touch, intimacy, and sex?
Do your current relationships support these unique needs?
On a scale of 1-10, what is your level of satisfaction with this area of Primary Food?